While discussing the last post containing my rules for life I was again confronted and challenged on my idea that you only deserve what you work for. Let me set the record straight: I think it would be wonderful if everyone were magically given a salary of $50,000 a year with free health care, child care, education, and hell free food too. I also don't think that anyone should be treated poorly for something they cannot change like their skin color or sexual orientation. That all being said, the world isn't perfect and reality has to be brought to bear (or at least I feel it my responsibility to inform my children): those wonderful notions are just that, notions.
In Curse of The Black Pearl, Jack Sparrow says it perfectly "there are only two things that matter - what a man can do and what a man can't do." While dreams and hopes temper reality and keep us from jumping off bridges, you cannot live with your head stuck in the clouds forever. Eventually you come down and it hurts because at some point you had said "fuck parachutes. Why would I need that thing?". Life is rough, we don't control other people and despite how hard we wish for things, they don't get done without action. The rules of being a good person don't restrain evil magically - shit happens and no higher power is going around policing the world. I wish everyone had a comfortable life but it's not how the world works and while we can strive for it, it may never happen. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst seems like a sound strategy for life to me.