Sunday, August 10, 2014

My Rules For Life

My parents taught me some good values for life but they were almost always melded with some religious undertones which used fear as a motivator. Now that I see life more pragmatically, I have been trying to assess what I can pass onto my kids without the unnecessary rubbish attached. Rustin Cohle said "if the only thing keeping a person decent is the expectation of divine reward, then brother, that person is a piece of shit". I want my children to choose to be good people not because of theophobia or because it's how they get a mansion in Heaven. This list isn't comprehensive and surely isn't original to me but it's what came out of my brain as I ruminated on the topic. 

  1. You don't deserve anything unless you've worked for it. Anything you get for free is a blessing and you should be grateful for it.
  2. Observe what others are doing and ask yourself why. If appropriate, ask questions even if you aren't interested in what is going on. Learning is never a bad thing and even "random" knowledge will come in handy down the road. You can converse with almost anyone if you know a little about a topic they are interested in and know how to ask questions.
  3. Give your best effort to any task even if others around you aren't. It will eventually open up doors for you. Also be likable and develop relationships - relationships usually trump everything else.
  4. Make an effort to figure things out yourself before asking for help. You don't know what you are capable of until you are pushed.
  5. If someone offers to help you with no strings attached, don't feel bad taking it. If the benefactor has ulterior motives that's not your problem or responsibility. You don't owe anyone anything however, loyalty to solid people should not be underrated.
  6. Respect the principle of the rules, they are usually there for a reason but don't blindly follow them.
  7. You can make your own rules but be prepared that there may be consequences because every decision we make has repercussions.
  8. Someone will almost always have more power than you and you may have to obey even if you don't like it.
  9. Don't accept anything just because someone told you even if you respect them. Think about it for yourself and see if it rings true.
  10. Don't be afraid to be wrong or look stupid but always try to retain your dignity.
  11. Always do maintenance to your possessions and body before they break down. It will cost way more to repair what you let fall into disrepair or bad health.
  12. If you are poor don't pinch every penny but find small ways to enjoy life because what's the point of a life with no fun.
  13. People are going to be unkind, deal with it. Holding onto hurts and anger is like letting people add ball and chains to you that you drag around. The only person you are certain to control throughout life is yourself - get a grip.
  14. Don't ever lie but you also aren't required to tell anyone things your don't want to. "I don't want to discuss this" is an acceptable response.
  15. Don't be a basic bitch : )

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