We are highly evolved, intricate robots each with a different set of variables constantly being programmed through the sensory information taken in. Our reality is shaped by what we are taught as children and while that can change over time, our perception constantly shapes how we view the world and move through it. Individuality isn't because some god decided to make you a certain way. You are just a statistical possibility that has power over the choices it makes. That doesn't mean you are any less special, in fact I find it kind of cool to think of of myself as an equation that is constantly being changed.
Life is simply a series of events providing opportunities where we make choices. Each choice is adding a different variable to the equation that is your life opening up a completely new set of possibilities. It's kind of like a choose your own adventure book. Just like the book though, there are endings that you don't have control over despite the pages you flipped to. We only have control over the choices we make but the outcome is rarely determined by one individual. Trying to control your entire life is about as ludicrous as trying to drink the ocean.
This isn't to say that we should give up on trying to understand each other, quite the contrary. While we cannot share the exact same eyes as someone else, we can step back and remember that "we are all the same, but we're different. But in the sense that we're all different, we're the same." That little quote, while a bit of nonsense is the truth. If we could quit trying to make people just like us and listen to others perspectives, we might get along a whole lot better.
You might say "their perspective is wrong" but it's what they have seen from their vantage point. It doesn't mean you have to accept what they believe but understand that you don't understand their life because you haven't lived it. People get hung up on "the truth", constantly trying to hem it in with a formula or religious revelation. Here's the thing, no matter where you are looking at something from, you cannot be certain it is the proper angle. The only thing that is so ubiquitous, infinite and pure that it can be viewed the same no matter where you reside in space is love.
Love is a force that transcends time or distance. It's qualities are undeniable: love is patient, love is kind, love is not proud, etc. Romance and sex have been trivialized because to have real love requires selflessness that still has boundaries. Which seems confusing because if you are selfless, doesn't that mean you have no boundaries? It's really only one boundary - don't ever let someone try to make you something you're not. You aren't someone's excuse for their problems or the source of another's happiness. Selflessness is the quality that holds the autonomy of another higher than its own desires. Where do things like murder, rape and theft come from? The perpetrator putting what they want above the consent of the victim.
So for the sake of argument, step back from your one little atom and visualize a sea of atoms that you are bobbing about in. We're all the same deep down, we just have very different variables that have influenced our lives. There is one plane we could all meet on though with a common perspective. Spanning language and cultural barriers, love needs no explanation, only acceptance.