Wednesday, January 29, 2014

Two Inches of Mayhem

Yesterday afternoon when the snow started falling and I made my way to the bar instead of trying to make my to shelter, I didn't realize what a good decision that was. Instead of being trapped on the freeways for 8-20 hours, I spent 6 hours at the bar chatting with a retired teacher and an electrical engineer on a business trip from Chicago. Talking to people who know more than me is one of my favorite things to do because I love asking questions and learning new things. After drinking my fill of beer, I made my way to a friends house a few miles away and crashed on the couch - ironically not being one of the people sleeping in their vehicles for the night.

I am by no means a doomsday type of person but the wisdom of having a few basic supplies on hand in the case of an emergency hit home. Despite having a load of blankets and a heavy jacket or two, I will be purchasing a sleeping bag, some sort of mechanical or solar charging device for my phone and a water purifier as the base elements of my kit. When I do have a house, a big bag of rice and a small camping stove are definitely in order. We really take for granted the easy access we have to the usually stocked grocery store shelves but even a slight interruption such as we had can wreak major havoc on our lives. A few basic things I've learned to survive the cold are: keep your head a feet well covered. If you can created a pocket of air around yourself such as with a blanket or walls of snow etc then you won't lose anywhere near the amount of heat if a slight exchange of air is had. In a really desperate situation, peeing into a bottle and then putting the bottle inside your jacket will provide extra warmth for a bit. Don't sleep directly on a surface like the ground or a truck bed without a decent barrier in between you and the surface because it will wick heat right out of your body. Your body can shut down it's metabolism if needed so in an extreme situation, don't eat food early in the day because it will make your metabolism jump. Wait till late in the day and only consume what you can afford to from your store of food. 

There are tons of other tips out there but these are a few that I have found to be helpful in my vagabond life. Hopefully this all clears up soon and we all have learned something valuable from the experience.

Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Shutting Down the World (or at least the south)

I got up late this morning because I didn't have to work today (thankfully) and also because it's hard to sleep well when it's below freezing. Maybe I'll finally break down and get a sleeping bag assuming walmart doesn't close like everyone else is. Due to my late start to the day I didn't eat any breakfast and by the time I got to some of the local spots, they had closed for the day "due to inclement weather". Thankfully I found a bar that is open (with wifi) so I get beer and some food. This is the kind of shit that I live for though. Anything that is bizarre and adverse to most people I find thrilling. When I was a kid I would love to go outside bundled up and curl up under my parents back porch and just lay there when the snow came down. Something about the falling snow is so peaceful. No one is bothering you and (I assume) because the snow is fluffy it absorbs sound making it more silent than usual. The contrast of being warm but having cold wind blowing on my face puts me in a very peaceful place. Hope everyone stays safe. I'm going to knock a few back at the bar till they kick me out.

Monday, January 27, 2014

Dancing Around the Issue

I'm coming to believe that conflict is a great way to grow as a person. If you are open minded and hear the other person out, you will either gain a new point of view or you will become more confident in the belief you already held: either way you are winning and hopefully you resolved the issue in the process. The problem with most conflicts (and why many people avoid them) is that one or more parties involved focus on surface issues such as "he forgot to get the milk again" instead of "I feel like he doesn't care about me when he forgets things". That's an oversimplification of it but most everything boils down to a base human need and the "problem" is is ancillary at best.

Very few people are truly unreasonable, they just have a different filter for life and events than you do. They are still a human being with the same basic desires as you so if you can get to what they really are feeling, you can connect and work towards resolution. The ones who aren't willing or able to dig past the anger or hurt the event triggered and get to the root are the brick walls you bang your head against. Focus on the surface issue and you'll do that stupid dance forever.

Friday, January 24, 2014

Correlation Does Not Equal Causation

There is so much demonization of smoking these days, many people turn their noses up at food if it isn't gluten free and it seems a certainty that the sun is way more dangerous than it was 60 years ago. I'm not going to mock allergies that people have or try and prove that smoking isn't unhealthy (because it obviously isn't great for you) but I find articles disconcerting with titles like "Smoking Now Found To Be Even Worse Than We Thought". If you are studying something like smoking then you need to take into consideration the type of people smoking. In the past everyone smoked without a second though but now since it's somewhat taboo, it's going to be  the people that need smoking more than they care about being looked down upon. Point being it's probably a stress relief therefore their baseline of stress and stress hormones is probably a lot higher than other individuals. Stress is extremely harmful to the bodies immune system and anyone with a higher level of stress is going to be more susceptible to disease. Are the 80 year olds that have smoked their entire lives outliers, genetic super humans? Or could it possibly be that they don't smoke for the same reasons as the guy who dies at 60 from lung cancer?

You cannot simply take facts and interpret them without structuring them inside of a massive context of culture, emotional and mental stability, lifestyle, geographic location and probably a few other things. I am sure that the ozone truly has been degraded however I can attest to the fact that as one of the most fair skinned genetic classes you will meet, you can develop a base tolerance to the sun. I spent last year out in the sun every day which required applying SPF Ginger about 5 times a day. What I started to discover is that my skin began to permanently darken and I slowly had to apply the sunscreen less times per day. Is it really the suns fault or could it be that because we stay inside away from the sun way more than even a few generations ago, we don't have the melanin built up to handle the intense rays of the sun? Kids used to play outside all summer and now most of them sit inside on video games turning into pasty little UV fodder.

This is probably offensive but I believe that allergies are almost always a product of constant fear / stress / anxiety weaving its way through our subconscious day in and day out. I became lactose intolerant about 5 years ago when I was completely stressed out every day living in LA with 3 kids and making almost nothing. When I was 17 I developed a couple month allergy to peanut butter and when I was 12 I was allergic to eggs (among many other things). To my knowledge I'm not allergic to anything except a little lactose intolerant to some degree. As I've tried to eliminate the mentality that causes me to be stressed, I've been able to periodically ingest dairy products without being miserable for half the day. The bodies immune system is incredible and if it's not working properly, you may need to examine your psyche instead of scrapping all the good food from your diet. 

Next time you read an article that winds you up with the latest study of how awful something is, step back and try testing it with all the different elements of the context it sits in and maybe you will start to think for yourself.

Thursday, January 23, 2014

Free Dental Work

Today marked the end of my 10 year abstention from any dental care now that I have insurance through my job (a first in my adult life). I never go to the doctor but since we are all compelled to purchase insurance, it was fortuitous that I don't have to figure out the system as long as I keep my current job. A few months ago I started experimenting with "Oil Pulling" (the name still makes me cringe) and even though it's completely unsubstantiated by any scientific evidence, I'd like to credit my dental health to the magic of coconut oil. The dentist said that I have no cavities and if he had to guess by the buildup on my teeth, he would have only thought I had missed two years of cleanings.

A lot of my good fortune may be due to genetics but if you floss, brush and use mouthwash (or possibly coconut oil : ) then most people can avoid dental problems - except crack heads: they are screwed. Gotta say though, I do love the feel of cleaned teeth and the peace of mind knowing that my mouth isn't rotting away.

A New Low

Last night I reached a new low in this bizarre van life experiment: not emotionally but in thermosurvival. I have gone camping in colder weather (record being 5 degrees) but that involved a sleeping bag and a fire two luxuries currently unavailable / impossible for me. The digital mercury fell to 21 Fahrenheit and I actually slept quite nicely once I "nested". I'm fairly convinced that you can't get so cold in your sleep that you would die because you would wake up first. Which only means you would be half awake and conscious while freezing to death - sounds delightful, NOT!

The secret (if you are too stubborn to buy a sleeping bag) is to trap all the air in a bubble around you with a big blanket or something. Again, pretty sure you won't die from lack of oxygen and the heat factor is amazing one you warm up the surrounding "air bubble". It never hurts to wear a hat as well to trap some of that extra heat in that you can then breathe into your bubble. I make it sound so sexy I know.

Off topic but interesting to me is how long hot sauce can linger on your fingers. Even after a good washing, there were still trace amounts of Zaxbys Insane wing sauce on my fingers from dinner. I rubber my eye area and immediatly felt like I was playing the part of Sauron's eye in LoTR. At least my eye was warm till I got my rats nest of blankets arranged.

Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Samsung Chromebook Review

I don't expect to make a practice of reviewing products on my blog but I just got this thing and love it so I figured I would share with all 5 of my avid readers. The Samsung Chromebook style is essentially a rip off of the Macbook Air which means it's awesome. $250 for a device that can surf the internet, play netflix on an 11.something inch screen, type documents, play movies from memory sticks, has wifi, bluetooth, and turns on almost instantly - you can't go wrong. I had been using a Microsoft Surface RT but you either need a table to set it on to type with a keyboard or hen peck on the virtual keyboard which makes me about lose my mind. I don't feel like posting the Chromebook specs because most of you guys won't know what they mean anyway. Suffice to say that this device is excellent for students all the way to grandparents who just do email and some internet shopping.

Don't Bullshit a Bull (they have horns)

Earlier today I was informed by a friend that "I'll never be punk" in response to a Facebook post I made apologizing for making a profanity laced diatribe against law enforcement a few days earlier. I don't apologize unless I'm wrong and most of the time I don't need someone else to tell me I need to straighten out since I'm my own worst critic. I do my best to see all sides and give everyone equal consideration but  unfortunately it tends to alienate a lot of people. I'm too honest to be "against the establishment" because I believe that something good can be derived from almost anything but I'm also too rebellious to be mainstream. A month or two back I wrote a post called No Country for Honest Men where I tried to creatively express this no mans land in between the social worlds. I'm not going to rehash that post but instead will talk about bullshitting.

There's the phrase "don't bullshit a bullshitter" (I love you Jane Lynch) but why bullshit anyone? Bullshitters should only bullshit each other because turnabout is fair play. I could list a bunch of reasons why people lie but it boils down to one of two things: either you are a controlling sociopath or you are a ho and to quote Jay-Z "not in the sense of having a pussy but a pussy having no goddamn sense..." (translation: spineless idiot). Lying to people is stupid because as we were probably all told as children, once you make up one lie you almost always are going to have to make more to cover it up. On top of creating a cycle of lies, you aren't doing anyone any good. If you think it's rude to tell the truth, I'll break it down for you.

Claiming to be an honest person doesn't give you carte blanche to share you opinions and feelings whenever and wherever you feel like it. Someone said "the only time you should give an opinion is when it's asked for or in a life and death situation". Obviously there are circumstance where the asking is implied such as in a business meeting where collaboration is expected. The next point is delivery - intention and reality are two completely different animals. Someone may ask for your opinion on their latest piece of art work for instance. If you simply don't care for it you can say "it's not my style but you did a good job." If the piece is technically bad a good response is "I like what you were going for but I think your xyz needs a little work." Those are obviously way better than replying "I think my 4 year old could have done better." All these responses may hurt feelings but at least the first two are constructive and somewhat encouraging at the same time. What are you going to do if you lie and say you liked it and then they try to give it to you expecting to see it hanging up in your house when they come to visit? Most of this boils down to have tact, common sense and backbone.

In the movie Jack Ryan - Shadow Recruit a Russian businessman tells Jack "you Americans think of yourselves as direct. Perhaps you are just rude." Jack replies "You Russians like to think you're poets but perhaps you're just touchy". Just because it's how a culture works doesn't mean it's right and if someone get's their feelings hurt because I tried to deliver the truth with the above guidelines in mind, I don't really give a shit. I would rather someone tell me the truth if I ask "am I fucking up?" For them to try and spare my feelings does me no good. I don't have a ton of friends but those that I do have appreciate the fact that they know I will give them an honest answer if they ask me a question. Life is short and none of us have time to waste on false information. To finish this somewhat offensive post I'll quote the bible "speak the truth in love".

Monday, January 20, 2014

Unexpected Inevatibility - Carpe Diem

Yesterday I was made aware of the passing of a brother in my union. He was still young, not that that precludes anyone from death, but it always is more shocking when you find out someone "dies before their time". I heard a quote recently but can't find it to cite so I won't attribute it to anyone but it goes: "life is too short to really live but just long enough where we feel we will never die."  By the time most of us have gained enough wisdom to be effective, our lives are nearing their end. Knowing you most likely have 80 years or so, death seems so far away that we think it will never get us. Some old people become extremely bitter but most older people mellow out because they realize that the stupid shit they stressed out about when they were younger is completely irrelevant. I suppose some of it is just due to lacking the energy to be angry, worried etc - they're all exhausting, but most of it is just perspective gained through time and experience.

Our lives are short and every day needs to be seized to make the best of it. A couple years ago I had an accident that I shouldn't have survived and it changed me. The knowledge that something can happen in the blink of an eye that can alter everything flipped a switch in my brain. I have been accused of changing due to brain trauma but I really think it's because I decided that I might as well be happy in whatever time I had left. There isn't enough time in life to hold grudges, be afraid of what people think of you, to hide you feelings. I don't care if people think I'm too open and frank in person or on the internet - I'll be gone soon enough and at least I said my peace.

Last week I was reading a book called The Happiness Advantage by a Harvard professor who has studied the effects of our outlook on life. Research has shown that people with positive outlooks and generally happier dispositions live longer and are more successful. Success can't really be quantified because it's a subjective concept however, the fact remains that it's all controlled by our outlook. A homeless guy can feel successful if he manages to acquire a shopping cart with 4 good wheels while a CEO may be miserable making 5 million a year. I only got through half the book because there was so much information my brain overloaded and I was simply reading words after that without anything sinking in. What I did read has convinced me of one thing-  anyone can be happy, it's a choice, but it may take some individuals more work than others. Be grateful, don't worry - so much of the life is outside your control and as much as possible without being morbid, keep your fragility in mind. We all have to go sometime and the sooner you come to grips with that, the more you appreciate the day you have now.

*on the news now as I type this there is a story about the rise in death rates in lawyers. In the Happiness Advantage, the author states that lawyers are some of the unhappiest people because their job is to look for problems and exploit them. That outlook seeps into the other areas of their lives and shrouds everything in grey. Be careful what you focus on.*

RIP Roberto. You will be missed.

Friday, January 10, 2014

Pot of Gold Farm & Cruise Line

*disclaimer - I understand that much of what is in here is improbable if not impossible but just suspend disbelief and try to enjoy *

Sitting alone in his dingy studio apartment one evening after work Silas was flipping through the channels on his flat screen TV. 46, balding and single he had recently splurged on an 80" flat screen along with an insane cable package with more channels than hairs left on his head. In all reality he only watched a handful of the channels but it felt good to have the options there. Cynthia, his last relationship, had left him a year ago stating that he had no sense of adventure or drive. To be clear his last sexual encounter had been over two years ago when he first met Cynthia. He had shown an uncharacteristically adventersome spirit that night when he walked up to her on the dance floor and virtually snatched her out of her boyfriends arms. At first she was incensed by his brashness but her boyfriend Kyle was becoming stale and the Silas' impudence turned her on. The moment when he dipped her, she knew she was going to fuck this strangers brains out.

Silas had been fulfilling his end of a bet with some coworkers. He quickly slammed 4 shots of Jamison and virtually bolted onto the dance floor with the frenetic energy of a man who knows that if he doesn't keep moving forward, he'll turn and run. He hadn't been with a woman in several years (he hadn't lost count by accident but preferred to not keep track because as pitiful as his life was, he didn't want to commit suicide). Cynthia knew how to have a good time and for about 2 months dragged Silas through her sexual escapades till it slowly began to taper off due to his unwillingness to get a prescription for viagra. It wasn't that the sex wasn't fun but this woman scared him and being flaccid seemed the only way to keep her at bay and then only sometimes.

With Cynthia gone, life had become predictable which for a while was great but now predictable was turning into boring.  The television was a bandaid on the ever growing chasm of insecurity and loneliness. Flipping through the channels he was jarred from his comatose state by a bright and loud commercial for the Bargain Boat Buyers club. The commercial was shot on the deck of a swell yacht in pristine waters. Admiral Ben, the owner of the company with babes under each arm, told viewers about the possibility of owning a beautiful boat of their own at "discounts so deep you'll need Navy divers to find another deal this good". Silas thought that maybe this was what he needed. Wasn't he in his midlife? They call it a midlife crisis for a reason and he certainly fit the bill.

With the same dogged determination that he had shown on the dance floor, Silas grabbed the keys to his 1998 Toyota Corolla and headed for the door. Forgetting his appearance until he walked up to the front doors of Ben's and saw his reflection in the doors, it occured to Silas that no one would sell a boat to a barefoot man in a grubby T shirt, boxers. He was about to turn away when the door flung open and Ben himself, from the commercial greeted him. By his reaction to Silas you would have thought Silas looked like the Sultan of Brunei. Shaking his hand vigorously Ben asked "what can I do ya for sailor?" "A boat I guess" Silas stammered "like the one in the commercial, if you don't mind".

"Do you want sail or powered? Yacht or sport? We've got it all and can put you on one." Silas hadn't considered the options in his haste to maintain his sudden momentum. "A yacht I suppose. I want to be adventerous and take trips." As he said it, confidence was building in his chest. He would show Cynthia (not that he really wanted her back but it would feel great to post pictures with his new girlfriend and the boat on Facebook where she was bound to see them). Ben led the way to their largest yacht, a 130' beauty with ever amenity you could get in a 5 star hotel. Standing on the deck Silas could feel his future changing in front of him. "What is your price range if I may ask?" The question froze the vision like taking a bath in liquid nitrogen. He really didn't know what to expect. Surely this boat had to be expensive but he didn't want to taken advantage of. If he fudged the numbers a bit and it was a little too low, he could just get a smaller yacht. "200-300". "That's wonderful" Ben laughed "but are you buying a small country? This yacht is only 80 million".

The word million was like Ben had taken that frozen dream and dropped it onto the deck. His shoulders visibly slumped, mind racing for a way out without being humiliated further. "Do you want to look at the others or do you want to go sign the papers for this baby now?" Fighting a stupified mind Silas finally choked out "ou out of curiosity, what's the absolute least expensive yacht you have?" For a split second Ben eyed him first quzically, then with a "you're wasting my fucking time aren't you?" look but ever the quintessential salesperson, he forced a smile and clapped Silas on the back. "A real shopper here aren't you. Okay well we've got one in the back I can show you".

When he had said in the back, it wasn't an exageration. At the very opposite end of the boat yard nearly buried behind scrap hulls, propellers and other detritus sat the largest,  sorriest, ship you've ever seen. It was clearly hand made but it was enormous. "It's a big one. 450 feet long and 75 feet wide. Ugly son of a bitch and I don't know where you could dock a thing like this but I'll just about give this away to get it off my lot." If million had shattered his dream, free had glued some pieces back together. "I'm just curious, can I see the inside?" Silas asked trying not to sound too eager.

It took a 40 foot extension ladder to reach the deck and both men to manuever it into place. Standing on the deck Silas realized that all the lumber was rough hewn and the sides of the boat had a mixture of pine pitch and epoxy for water proofing. Ben was right - this was one fucking ugly boat. But it was huge and nothing says adventure and midlife crisis more than a big toy. "You'd probably have to anchor this thing somewhere off shore and have a small boat to just get out to this thing" Ben mused. "Where did you get this thing...and why does it smell like shit?" Silas hadn't noticed it from below, apparently the pitching kept the smell from seeping out the sides, but up top the odor was pungent. Ben covered his nose looking over at the ladder "it was here when I bought the business. Apparently one of those crazy climate change nut jobs decided it was his job to save everything with a heart beat. Story goes that he spent so much time and money building this thing that the bank repo'd it when they came for his house." He motioned to the ladder "you done looking?" Silas nodded and the headed down the ladder. On the descent Ben continued the story "the fucking guy disassembled most of his house and installed it inside that boat so the bank figured it was now theirs. The only problem was that there was a fight with the city over it being an unlicensed, unsanctioned zoo. By the time they extricated Noah, the old geezer, he had somehow gathered 30 some odd species of animals and they had taken to shitting up the place."

The men had reached the ground again and Ben light up a cigarette. "Fucking thing is a fire hazard" he said without irony as he waved the hand holding the cigarette in the boat's direction. "I'll take it" Silas said matter of factly. Ben had started walking back to the office not realizeling Silas was not following. "Pardon?" Ben turned around. "I said I'll take it off your hands...I mean if you'll let me". Silas had said this louder to cover the small distance between him and Ben but also in an attempt to convince himself that he wasn't being an idiot. A slight quaver in his voice betrayed his self doubt. "Yeah okay. You and your slave army going to haul it out of here? That was 200 thousand you have wasn't it?" Realizing that he had just wasted 2 hours with this motly looking idiot Ben icyly stared at Silas and "if you can get it out of here, it's yours but don't waste anymore of my time dicking around in here" the disgust in the "Admiral's" voice was palpable and Silas shrank slightly. "I'll buy one of those boats you mentioned I would need to get out to this one" he mumbled bashfully offering an olive branch. "A sale is a sale is a sale, is it not my friend?" Ben's tone had changed as quickly as weather in south Florida. 3 hours later the paperwork was signed (which included a stipulation that the giant boat was his if he could somehow remove it) and Silas was the proud owner of a 35 foot yacht. As he walked out of the shipyard, a rain storm appeared out of nowhere pouring buckets of water soaking Silas. He didn't run though because for the first time in a while he felt on top of the world. When he reached his car, some of the clouds parted and the sun beamed through producing a vibrant rainbow over the shipyard. "That's a good omen" Silas thought. "Take that Cynthia. There's some adventure for you".

The rain storm that started the day Silas became the proud owner of two boats did not let up for an entire week leaving many areas of Saint Louis completely flooded. Unable to go to work Silas sat and thought about the massive purchase he had made. A few days of bipolar buyers remorse thirst for adventure tormented Silas. He could call and try to get his money back right? And he really wasn't obligated to remove that behemoth according to the contract. So what if he lost a little money. It was better than being a complete laughing stock. Unsure of what was going to come out of his mouth he dialed the Boat Buyers Club fully expecting to get the voicemail. "Admiral Ben here, what can we sail to you today?" "Hey this is Silas. I'm surprised you answered." "Well that's the perks of living in a boat. I can pilot it to work down the streets. Hopefully I don't get stuck here though. Shirley, grab me a beer darling. Okay, what's on your mind Silas my man? You know you could probably float big Bertha out of here and down the Mississippi, that is if you can figure out a way to steer it." "Steer it? What do you mean?" Ben belched. "I mean the jabroni that made it didn't intend for it to be a pleasure ship. It's a floating box really. There's no rudder." Silas was ingenious and what better way to show he was willing to tackle anything than to tame a 450 foot boat - the nautical equivalent of riding a Brahman Bull. "I'll be down there as soon as I can pack." Silas hung up adrenaline pumping through his veins.

It took 3 hours to paddle the kayak to the boat yard but it was pretty clear which boat Ben was living in. It was the one from the commercials which had clearly been shot a decade before judging by the appearance of the boat now. Ben invited Silas in where they shared a couple beers not saying much both contemplating the insane undertaking about to commence. "Thanks for the beer. Better get going. You got any decent sized anchors I can use?" Silas outlined his plan to drop an anchor off both sides of the stern raising and lowering them to cause drag theoretically steering the ship. As far as drunken plans go it was reasonably solid and both men were completely sold on it. It took some doing to devise a system for one man to manipulate the steering system but a system of pulleys fixed that problem. "You ready?" Ben shouted over the roar of the wind. "Yeah, let her go". When Ben released the last line mooring the boat it began wallowing around the ship yard like a pissed off toddler throwing a tantrum. Overcome with the excitement of the situation Ben shouted "fuck all these boats. I'll claim insurance on them. Run that bitch out of here!"

Silas had the look of a mad man as the lightening flashed and he pulled desperately at first on the chains. It took an exhausting half hour to master the singular technique of steering the vessel but once he had it down, he felt like the king of the world. It was dark at this point which was fortunate because he couldn't how many homes he had plowed through following the current to the Mississippi. When the sun rose the next day Silas was well down the river into Tennessee. Floating such a massive vessel down the river attracted a good bit of attention which was great since he had lacked the forethought to pack some provisions and after wrestling anchors for days he was fairly spent. A news helicopter landed on the deck of the ship for an exclusive interview. "I'm just going to the ocean and I want a hamburger. That's all I have to say. Oh, and hey Cynthia". As soon as his escapade hit the networks, restaurants were clammoring to supply food just for the sensational advertising. The networks true to form, hunted down Cynthia probing into her life asking questions like "what is your relationship to Ahab and his whale of a boat? Are you in love? What is his story?" The entire thing was a shock to Cynthia but very alluring and absolutely shockingly stupid. She remained tight lipped only furthering the speculation. Several reality show producers approached both Silas and Cynthia trying to get approval to shoot a reality show on the boat.

Silas would have been loathe to be on TV before but they were willing to pay and he would need cash if he was going to overhaul The Farm, which he had taken to calling the boat due to the smell. She would need two engines, a rudder system of some sort and rudimentary radios, lights and navigation if he didn't want to be run into or lost at sea. All of this would be much more than he had left after the purchase of his 35 footer. What the hell? Another shot with Cynthia, although as his confidence grew she became less important as he realized how many women he could have despite his appearance. Women love a man with serious balls almost as if they can smell the testosterone. He'd never had women pay any attention to him before but now they would line the river banks and flash their tits as he went past. Unfortunately stopping was unweildy and nearly impossible making hooking up with anyone nearly impossible. Not to mention the fact that he had to man the steering constantly dozing off only for short periods of time or risk running aground.

The reality show was short lived as Silas only was interested for the money and when he had enough to install the massive diesel engines and outfit the rest of the ship, he shut down production and launched out to sea. In the weeks following the launch of his adventure, it seemed that rainbows had a habit of following The Farm around. Of course a rainbow following around a ship begs for people to ask "you got a pot o gold on The Farm?" or "are you starting a gay cruise line?" When the show, Man vs Boat ended, a title he openly mocked himself, the public was left with the question - what the fuck are you going to do with this thing? Silas thought it best to keep everyone in the dark. The plans he had running around his mind didn't need attention right now and he wanted to get away and have some peace with Cynthia - the other take away from the show besides the money. Admittedly she had misjudged him or maybe she had given him the push he needed but after a few months of watching Silas dive head first into the project, his fat burning away and being replaced with rippling muscles, she was smitten.

Modifications made, show ended with money in the bank, the couple launched out on an voyage to where only Silas knew. The Farm was going to become just that - a pot farm. All the puns, jokes and piles of dried up animal shit had ruminated in his mind germinating into this. They would float just inside international waters where they could grow copious varities of marijuana unmolested. Hence the secrecy with his plans. No need to attract the attention of drug cartels or pirates. The rest of the room on The Farm would be converted to living quarters and a desalination for the hydroponic growing tanks. They would offer high paid vacations to select groups of individuals ferrying them to day excursions on the 35 footer and back at night to get high on the high seas. Cynthia was dubious as to the viability of this plan but when she discovered that as a ship captain Silas could marry folks, she proposed they market to homosexuals. Hell, they had a rainbow following them so why not offer cruises where you could get married, smoke some weed and have a great time. Silas felt uncomfortable talking about it at first not because he was homophobic but because he felt the need to tell people "it's a great time as long as you don't mind whiffs of shit from time to time". It seemed only right to let them know but at the same time he worried that it would come across as ignorant and bigoted. Cynthia told him "intelligent people know when to be offended because someone is actually being an asshole". He had to agree despite her choice of words making him chuckle considering the debate.

Five years in to the gay wedding cruise / pot farm venture, Pot o Gold Cruises, Silas and Cynthia had banked enough money to buy a small island or nice villa on the coast of Italy and do nothing except what ever whim took their fancy. It wasn't just the money that had kept them going but the principle of undermining the system and helping couples in love seal the deal. The last state in the US was slated to fall to marriage equality soon rendering their service a novelty instead of a protestation of necessity. "What do you say Babe, we do one more and retire?" Silas was reading the news on his tablet and turned it to show the headline to Cynthia. "One more..." she contemplated the thought. So much had happened in the last few years but she was having to admit her thirst for adventure was waning. "Yes where do you want to go? They say the coastal towns may be unsafe any day with the melting ice." Silas laughed sarcastically "maybe those Westboro fuck snots are right. God is going to drown us all for letting the boys and girls marry. Hell, I guess we could just ram this thing into an island and if the waters rose high enough we'd have an escape pod so to speak". "Sounds good to me." Cynthia remarked twirling her hair "this last one has to be fabulous and exclusive. I'm going to make some calls".

Only inviting their favorite couples back from the past five years was a challenge. There were so many to choose from but the final list was made and invites emailed for the 2 week bash set for the 4th of July. The day arrived and Silas spent a full day ferrying couples from shore to ship. He couldn't help but think about the day he had gone to the Boat Buyers Club and seen The Farm. 5 years of pot filled bliss had followed and he didn't even recognize the man he used to be. Some crazy old man's delusional project had saved his life and given him life long friends. A rule on the ship was "international waters - no problems". This simply meant that unless there was an emergency, there was no internet or phones for the duraction of the cruise. Had someone checked the news, they would have realized what was coming because you surely couldn't tell on the ship. When you are in the middle of the ocean with nothing for comparison, you can't tell that the ocean level is rising. As the trip came to an end the passengers attempted to check their email only to find no servers available. One passenger who worked in the tech industry hacked the satellite connection and was able to pull the last data transfers stored in the memory and they slowly put the pieces together. The irony was not lost on them - the last remaining humans on earth were most likely on that ship: a hetersexual couple too old to procreate and numerous gay and lesbian couples. Humanity would be saved through homosexuals. "up yours Westboro" Silas thought looking up at the rainbow over The Farm.

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Self Absorbed Lockdown

The past two weeks I've been fairly self absorbed in my own personal life and haven't felt like writing or doing much of anything. Thankfully this "crisis" and sudden cold snap coincided with when I was asked to house sit so I have not had to brave the single digit temperatures at night in my van. Partially because I feel guilty for using other people's resources but also because I've become used to the cold, I've left the thermostat on 64 in the house - a planet Hoth to most civilized folks. Driving to see my kids the other day I witnessed several tents under the freeways as well as a bunch of people holding hands in a circle around a pile of shit which I can only imagine were the posessions of some poor homeless folks. I have it pretty good compared to many in the world.

Not having to work this entire 9 days of house sitting, I've essentially slept on the couch and watched movies eating one meal a day. It dawned on me that this is the first time I've ever done this in my life. I've either been working or had other people around my entire life and the peace was nice. So this is what it's like huh? Ok, cool. I could get used to this from time to time.

Stumble Upon provided me with two articles related to psychology and I feel that a few points bear repeating. One article was about how false memories can be placed in our minds, take root and seem real, even traumatizing to us. That's an extremely scary proposition because our experiences shape our current behavior and can really fuck up future decisions. After being disturbed by the knowledge that my memories may be betraying me, I have come to the conclusion that it's best to live out of what I want to be, not what I think I've been. It's also important to not shut people out of your life. I've reacted to my impressions of events and pushed people away Now I'm trying to be honest with how I feel and try to clear the air. Instead of running, I have boundries that I don't feel guilty about. If they can stay within the boundries then we can have a relationship. I met up with my former mentor yesterday and had an honest talk about, life, God etc. Even though I knew the answers weren't what he wanted to hear it felt great to know that I was able to maintain a connection with a fellow human while still retaining my integrity.

The second article was related to justifying preferences. A study was done where two groups of students were given the option to select one of two posters. One group only had to choose a poster then sod off while the other group had to first explain their choice in writing. After a few months the researchers went back to see how the students felt about the posters they had selected. By a huge margin the participants who were forced to explain their choice hated the poster they selected while the other group was generally still happy with their selection. Don't ever feel the need to justify your preferences to other people. If you like something then don't change just because you can't explain it. Most true artists are considered odd, outlandish, eccentric, vulgar - a host of pejoratives. However, many who remained true to their vision are eventually celebrated as masters in their field. If you want to leave an impression on the world, just do you.

Friday, January 3, 2014

Ex-Professional Bad Guy

This year is starting out really shitty. Another relationship appears to have disintegrated overnight and it is purported that it's my fault. I've had three very important people in my life abandon me at a moments notice in the last two years and it fucking sucks. I've pursued the relationships to make it was clear I wanted to figure things out but to no avail. Now suffice to say that my actions have never been malicious or ill intentioned but that's how I'm perceived. Thankfully I'm house sitting for the week so I don't have to sit in my van freezing and heartbroken.

When I was getting divorced I changed my occupation on Facebook to Professional Bad Guy. Most people mistook it as me trying to say I was a badass when in fact it was a snarky deflection regarding the marital problems being all my fault. I tried to appropriate the scapegoat label as a defense mechanism but now I wonder if it says something deeper about me and the relationships I have chosen to be in. Either I'm a delusional sociopath blind to my faults or I subconsciously select abusive people to have in my life. Regardless of what the case is, I'm starting to think I need some sort of psychiatric help. Earlier today I deleted my profession on Facebook because I believe what we tell ourselves has power and I can't do it anymore. I'm sick of being a professional bad guy.